We live in a pretty darn sexed-up culture.
Any sentient human being who’s turned on the TV, been on the Internet, or generally existed in the past few decades knows this. We are sexually wired creatures, and God has created us to be that way. It was no accident. As such, there are constant outpourings of our sexual consciousness in media and society and there are always ways that we push the limits of what’s appropriate and acceptable. We see this particularly in advertising, where sex appeal is used to sell anything from beer to toothpaste. In society, it’s not only acceptable, but it is considered normal to date casually, have casual sex, be casual about physical affection, casually watch porn, and in general, be sexy-casual. And have sex.
The point is that with our culture’s insane obsession with all things sexual, we tend to sexualize our relationships and the normal process for many relationships is to meet, click, chill, kiss, touch, sex. Everything is so physically based that it’s just so normal for couples to be attached at the hip/face 24/7.
And in this sea of sensuality, sometimes the simple things get lost.
So that brings me to the title of this post, “The First Kiss.” You know…we often forget that a kiss is a precious thing. It’s simple, it’s sweet, and it’s meaningful. And I think the last part there is key…a kiss means something. When a man kisses a woman for the first time, whether or not he knows it, he is communicating an awful lot about his intentions. Not only is he saying he thinks you’re beautiful, ladies, but inherent in that action is a message of commitment. It communicates desire, and no matter how small or subtle it is, desire implies commitment if it is to become reality.
At least that’s how I see it.
For me, a kiss is a pure and simple expression of love. And how you use it can be an even greater expression of love in your relationship. Song of Solomon talks about the beauty of kissing and how powerful it is (Song of Solomon 1:1-7).
The point of all this is that I think we take it for granted. It’s a simple expression of love (or lust, depending on your heart). Should we treat it as a commodity to be casually traded?
Ultimately, it’s a personal choice and an issue of Christian liberty to decide how you want to use the gift of kissing that God has given us. But we should sober-minded and consider how God views things (1 Peter 1:13).
So about that first kiss…I’ll tell you about it when it happens. When someday, I propose to the girl I want to marry. I want to save it for her so that she knows how important it is. I want to be able to say that the first girl I kissed was the one I married.
What do you think about kissing? Do we take it lightly? Is it just a sign of affection or is it something deeper?